are you giving yourself a pass?

I almost entitled this “are you giving yourself enough self-love?” but that seems really trite these days.

Yep, you knew it was coming…definition of trite (Oxford): worn out by constant use or repetition; devoid of freshness or novelty; hackneyed, commonplace, stale.

Is it only me that feels that telling everyone to have more self-love is wearing thin? But really, what new words of encouragement and support can be given that will last until the end of Covid-19? Who even knows how long we are here?

How much “self-love” can a person come up with in isolation when also trying really hard to “other-love” their family, friends, students, colleagues…while online-ing EVERYTHING.

Are you struggling with this? It’s a lot to handle.

You need to give yourself a pass.

Brace yourself…definition of pass, which as a saying, could come from the word passport (again, Oxford): to give a person permission to travel to, from or through. If you only consider the word “pass”, it still contains energy, movement, motion. It’s action.

Give yourself a pass.

Let yourself move through all of this crappiness (isolation, grieving the loss of time and loss of life, companionship, human contact…) with grace.

This is all worth really thinking about.

Are you giving yourself permission to pass through all of this?

No one will be unscathed in some way on the other side. So, do what you need to do.

I recently listened to a podcast (the RobCast - LOVE it) called “The Last Guru”, thinking, what the heck is this about?! Who is the last guru? Is it someone I haven’t heard about yet?!

The condensed version? What YOU think is all that you need. Trust what you are doing and where YOU are IN THIS MOMENT. You don’t need to ask anyone “what do I do?”. That gut feeling you have? That’s your inner guru. YOU are the last guru. You don’t need to look any further.

Be still. And trust yourself. Give yourself a pass.

Feel like reaching out to me? I’m here.

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